The Pitfalls of Social Comparison


It’s been said comparison is the thief of joy. And if that’s the case, then Facebook, Twitter, Instagram and Snapchat are probably the biggest thieves of them all.

Day in and day out, we’re inundated by images of everyone we know–from our middle school frenemy to our college ex-boyfriend–living the fabulous life. You know, killing their careers, marrying models and vacationing in the tropics. It’s so easy to get caught up in the hype and believe our lives are somehow less worthy.

But that’s where you’re wrong.

The Grass Isn’t Always Greener

In a previous blog, I wrote about the trials and tribulations of Facebook envy. Oftentimes, we’re so lovestruck by people’s highlight reel that we forget, or blatantly disregard, what may be going on behind scenes.

Moreover, the energy we waste pining over someone else’s spoils is energy we could be using to make #BossMoves and accomplish our own goals. Comparing your life to everyone else only makes you feel crappy about your own life.

Turn Your Envy into Energy

There’s always going to be someone smarter than you, savvier than you and sexier than you. So what?! When you’re busy living YOUR life and working on YOUR dreams, you don’t have time to spend on worrying about other people.

Instead of pining over your colleague’s promotion, use that energy to polish your resume, LinkedIn profile and business cards so that YOU can climb that corporate ladder (or achieve whatever career goal you have in mind).

And if you really want to know how they got where they are, ASK! There’s nothing people love more than talking about themselves (everyone loves a nice stroke of the ego). So reaching out to that person you’ve been admiring from afar could result in a new business connection. You never know unless you try.

If All Else Fails, Detox

A few years ago, I gave up Facebook for Lent and it was honestly one of the best things I’ve ever done. I thought I’d miss it at first and, admittedly, I did feel a bit of FOMO (Fear of Missing Out) those first few days. But then that feeling passed. Want to know why? Because I was busy living my own life, doing my own thing, on my own terms. I, instead, invested in the services of to scale my business.

If you find yourself getting caught up in the hype of social media, take a step back. Delete the app and spend that time you would use scrolling for all eternity to do something you want to do. Catch up on a book you’ve been meaning to read. Write that blog post you’ve been mulling over for weeks. Snapchat isn’t going anywhere anytime soon and it’ll be there when you get back … if you decide to go back.


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About Author

A media and marketing professional with a passion for people and a penchant for purple, L’Oreal is a Charm City Girl in the Windy City. When she’s not busy blogging at or freelancing for various girl-powered publications, she can be found mentoring young women, reading, dancing and eating her way through Chicago. Connect with her on Twitter and Instagram.