Life tends to feel so rushed these days. We are constantly trying to compete with our future selves for that next “moment,” instead of appreciating the present. At 18 years old, you wouldn’t have been able to tell me that by 30 I wouldn’t have at least one child, a degree, husband and career. Yet I’m 32, and here we are. I mean 2 out of 4 isn’t bad, right?
As much as I’ve planned my life and career out on paper, it just hasn’t quite worked out the way that I thought that it would.
Oddly enough, this hasn’t been a bad thing. I’ve switched careers about four times, lived in four major cities and have had to start from scratch at least twice, all in the pursuit of having it all together. I understand that 30 is the “golden” age, especially for women. Our bodies, taste in men and our tolerance for just about everything seemingly changes as soon as the clock strikes 12 on the last day of our 29th year. In general, it seems like life has become one big cluster f*ck immediately after.
I once heard Denzel Washington say something to the tune of, “The best part of being a young adult is knowing that you don’t have to have life all figured out.” We get so hung up on our personal timelines or trying to make fetch happen, that we forget to enjoy the journey and learn the lessons that we are supposed to along the way.
I’m always doing something that I like to call, “self inventory” and I challenge you to do the same.
For me, it’s during these moments that I take the time to just be. I keep myself honest by reassessing what or whom I’m passionate about, allowing life to happen and appreciating each moment. I’ve learned to stop competing with the future me by not limiting myself to who or what I’m supposed to be by a certain age, doing so has been so necessary for growth and happiness.
Now don’t get me wrong, as much as this free bird has learned to fly, I’m still financially responsible and stable. Having order in the midst of chaos and being smart about money are both important tools to carry along the way, but life’s purpose isn’t only about paying your bills on time every month.
I allow myself the space to mess up from time to time without guilt and have fun. I want to tell my younger sisters in the world to be genuinely happy, don’t spend all of years waiting on happiness or thinking that it comes in the form of something that is tangible.
Create the life you know you’re meant to live by manifesting and doing what you’re most passionate about.
Start your business Sis, change your career path, start from scratch, move to an unfamiliar place. Always remember to love your spirit as much as you love what’s on the outside, and take note that you don’t have to have it all together by 30.